Lorraine E Murray, founder of Connected Kids hosts an Interview with Suzanne Scott, founder of the charity Trauma Informed Parenting Scotland
- What is trauma informed parenting?
- What difference does it make to a young person if their parent is trauma informed
- What difference does it make to the parent if they can be trauma informed
- What are your top 3 tips for people to practice to be a trauma informed parent
- Can you give us a practical (real life) example of a situation using TIP skills?
- Advice on how long a traumatic birth can impact a child and where to source advice to help their kids if they have been through a traumatic birth.
How mindfulness helps you ‘see’ your kids and teens
I was inspired to write this after reading a blog from NY psychotherapist, Katherine Schafler, about the 4 unconscious questions a person asks themselves. The one that connected with me the most was about ‘being seen’.
As a child I grew up in a culture where ‘children should be seen and not heard’. This attitude may have been exclusive to the Victorian/Scottish parenting style at the time, but as an adult, it has left me with lots of thoughts and feelings to work through and process – sometimes with the help of a therapist or my meditation practice.
I am also a foster carer and one of the key things I’ve learned is that ‘being seen’ is essential in order to have a connection with the children we care for.
I believe that my mindfulness skills, my personal meditation practice and my ability to introduce a ‘teaching meditation’ to the kids we care for in a way that meets their needs and abilities (and interests) has helped us start to build a an emotional and mental bridge between the world and kids in our care so that they can connect to the world around them in a more kind, loving and caring way.