¿Con qué frecuencia sale corriendo del trabajo, pasa el tiempo de su viaje? ¿Preocuparse por las tareas que dejó sin hacer y / o averiguar quién tiene que estar y dónde cuándo esa tarde y noche, y luego comenzar a gritar instrucciones a todos desde el momento en que abre la puerta principal?
La definición de estrés del Ejecutivo de Salud y Seguridad es “la reacción adversa que tiene una persona a una presión excesiva u otro tipo de exigencias que se le imponen”. En la agitada cultura actual de 24 horas al día, 7 días a la semana, usted será una minoría si nunca experimenta episodios estresantes en algún momento de su vida. Esto, junto con el conocimiento de que la vida familiar que experimentan nuestros hijos tendrá un gran impacto en la forma en que aprenden a lidiar con situaciones, relaciones y la vida diaria en general, es por eso que la acción puede ser necesaria.
Así que aquí hay algunas ideas que lo ayudarán a superar tiempos difíciles y restablecer el equilibrio de su familia:
Learn to switch off after work
Practice mindfulness/relaxation/deep breathing while you walk home from work or during the time it takes to get changed out of your work clothes.
If walking home is not possible, think about ways you could make your journey home more relaxing so that you are in home mode when you walk through the door e.g. try an audio book or read something brought from home during your commute.
Try to mentally note the physical, mental and emotional move from work or home and from employee to parent. This may be changing into more casual clothes or perhaps just swopping your shoes … or even just taking off your office socks!
Set some boundaries for family time
Quality time is when you are physically and emotionally present with your child. If you find that your mind wanders back to thinking about work, try to counter it with some techniques for switching off see http://www.in-equilibrium.co.uk/tag/switch-off-after-work/
Arrange a set time during the week when your family is the priority and everyone feels special. Discuss this as a family; it could be a film night, playing a board game, having a special tea or something included within the bedtime routine.
Ensure that during this time you totally focus on your family and don’t get distracted by answering calls or emails.
Try to eat together as a family
If possible, try to always have your meal around a table so that you can all catch up on each other’s day. If everyone can’t eat at the same time, try at least to have a snack or drink together at some point during the evening so that you have a little calm time together.
There is nothing worse than having cross words in the morning and leaving for the day on poor speaking terms. Although it can be a chore in the evening when you’re feeling tired at the end of a busy day, getting organised for the following day the night before will take pressure off everyone in the morning. You could even encompass it into your switching off from work routine!
Take a short time to yourself every day
If you’re happy, this will be reflected in your attitude and will be passed on to your family. Perhaps there is an area in your life that you would like to work on to create some balance e.g. fitness/sport, hobbies, better quality sleep, or time with friends.
Share the chores
It is very tempting, for many reasons, just to do everything yourself. However, especially for the long term, it is important for everyone to be able to pitch in. You could even set a time aside when everyone carries out their assigned household chores together and then have some special family time once order’s restored and you all deserve a treat.
We’re all different
It may be obvious but we are all unique and will each handle a bad day differently, and that includes the younger members of a family. When thinking about managing stress, remember to take into account everyone’s needs. http://www.in-equilibrium.co.uk/react-stress-close/
In summary, take a few minutes every month to reflect on your personal life and, if you feel things are out of equilibrium, try a few tweaks to improve the quality of your life. As Brian Tracy said, “Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance”.
In Equilibrium was established in 1998 and provides in-company training courses to organisations throughout the UK. We specialise in practical training aimed at developing resilience, minimising the risk of stress and enhancing wellbeing within organisations. We design and deliver training courses for managers and employees that are based on empirical psychological evidence and common sense management principles. Our courses are delivered by engaging and experienced trainers who are specialists in their field. The courses always provide practical tools and resources delegates can use for on-going development. http://www.in-equilibrium.co.uk/